When Baby Doesn’t Like The Sling

I’ve been getting this question (and giving the following advice) for a while in-store now and have been getting GREAT feedback from happy parents on how well it works so I thought I should share it with you all too.

What do you do when your baby doesn’t like the sling? (Or carrier, Mobywrap, etc.)  She fusses and cries when she’s in, but is happy when you’re holding her in your arms.  She doesn’t want to be put down, but also doesn’t want to be in any carrier.  What to do?  My third child was like this.  She did not like the sling and would fuss in it, though she did want me to hold her.  When she was a few weeks old I told her, half-jokingly, “You are the THIRD child.  You WILL be a sling baby.  I just don’t have enough hands!”

If this sounds like your baby, first you want to rule out any physical discomfort.  Make sure the baby is properly positioned: chin off chest, back straight and not hunched over, face clear of fabric, head high enough that you can bend YOUR head down and kiss the top of HER head.  Make sure her legs are not too squished up, sometimes this can bother babies.  (If you have any questions about proper positioning please come into the store or meet with your local babywearing group.)

Once you can establish that there is no physical discomfort, it’s time to look at why else your baby may dislike the carrier.  If they are a baby who likes to look around, try to stand in such a way that they can see what you’re doing.  In a front carrier this does not necessarily mean facing out.  It can also mean facing you, while you stand sideways.  For example, in my (crappy) picture you can see that I am not facing the person I’m talking to, I’m standing perpendicular to them and turning my head.  That way the baby can also turn their head and see everything that’s going on.  If the baby is on my back, I try to hike them up a little higher so they can look over my shoulder and also see everything that’s going on.

If the issue is not your baby trying to see stuff (which you can usually tell by the fact that they’re craning their head all around), and/or your baby is too young to want to look around but she’s still crying, chances are she is just unnerved by this new weird position you’re holding her in.

The temptation is to jump right into babywearing with all its benefits, like being able to stick your baby in the carrier and basically kind of forget about them and go about your business.  And you’ll get to that point.  But first you have to get your baby comfortable with this new thing.

Start having a “daily babywearing time” just for 10-15 minutes.  Make sure baby is not wet/dirty, hungry, or tired.  Put her in the sling or carrier and spend the next 15 minutes actively interacting with her in the sling.  Talk to her, sing, walk around and look at interesting things, do the “mommy dance”, that strange hopping, swaying jig we all do that babies like.   You want her to experience sling time not as “time that mom sticks me in this weird place and forgets about me” but as “special mommy-and-me time when I get her attention.”  You’re also communicating by this constant calm interaction that you are fully aware of this new weird situation (the carrier) and you are okay with it, so she can be okay with it too.  Do this for 10-15 minutes for about a week and your baby will grow comfortable with the sling, to the point that you will be able to stick her in and go about your business.  Babywearing bliss!

July Giveaway

First, congratulations to SimplySarahJ, your name was drawn to win the Undercover Mama nursing tank.  Please email us at admin@babiesbottomsandmore.com before Saturday morning, July 7) to claim your prize, let us know what size you wear and your first, second, and third color preferences.  (Normally you have a day to contact us but it’s a holiday.) 

 

Now to spill the beans on July’s giveaway.  I said on Facebook it was going to be two new products, that I am currently using on John Paul, and literally cannot keep in stock.  Well.  It’s a Wolbybug one-size cover and a 6-pack of Tiny Tush organic flatfold diapers. 

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New:The Wolbybug cover is new.  The Tiny Tush flats are actually not a new product, but I *thought* they had discontinued them and only recently found out, to my great excitement, that they were not discontinued but just moved to a different section of their website!  These are gorgeous, gorgeous flats.  About 30-40% larger than other flats, and with a thicker, more substantial weave, the organic cotton is buttery soft and smooth.  As with all flats, they unfold to a single layer making washing and drying a snap.  They are also so absorbent that I have been pad-folding them and using two of them in a Wolbybug cover OVERNIGHT with no leaks. 

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Currently Using: Those of you who have talked to me know that we’ve got one kid in full-time diapers but two more in cloth at night.  I wash all their cloth together.  And someone I think is carrying some form of yeast, so we’ve been battling rashes.  My plan was to start washing on the Sanitary cycle and use bleach with each wash until I could clear up the rashes and figure out who is carrying it, but I was wary of ruining my nice AIO and fitted bamboo diapers.  Well, on the day our shipment of organic flats arrived, our washer also started throwing off an error code and quit working.  The temptation was too great.  I took a dozen flats for myself and thought I might be having my very own Flats Handwashing Challenge a month late.  Luckily for me, my husband removed the sock (!) from the drain filter and the washer is now working again, but I decided I’d rather put the flats through the sanitary/bleach cycles since there is no elastic to get ruined on them.  I’ve been pad folding them into thick rectangles and tucking them into the flaps on the Wolbybug cover.  The back elastic really makes a difference!  I have four covers all pre-stuffed so putting it on is just like using an AIO.  When I change him, I dump the dirty flat in the diaper pail and if the cover is still clean I just tuck a new already-folded flat into the flaps and put it back in the changing table drawer for next time.  Super easy!  Since I usually wash diapers at night, I haven’t gotten a chance to try hang-drying them outside yet, but I’m excited to see our lower electric bill this month since they really only take 20-25 minutes to dry in my dryer instead of the 50 minutes my other favorite diaper does, the BumGenius Elemental. 

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You can see how big these flats are – they’re sitting on one!

Literally Cannot Keep In Stock: I wasn’t sure how well these Tiny Tush flats would sell.  They are $36.95 per dozen, while the Osocozy flats are only $9.98 per 6-pack, so about $20 per dozen.  After the dozen that I took for personal use, I had one dozen left, so I decided to prep them and sell them individually so people could try one before shelling out over $35 for a whole dozen.  That was Saturday morning.  That afternoon, an expectant couple came in and wanted to look at all the different types of cloth diapers.  I was excited to show them these new flats so I grabbed a clean one out of John Paul’s changing table to show them.  After comparing it with the Osocozy flats, they decided they loved the larger, thicker, softer organic flats and wanted to buy my last dozen.  Unfortunately they were still in the washing machine being prepped, so God bless ’em, this couple walked out with one dozen sopping wet Tiny Tush organic flat diapers!  Not to worry, I have another few dozen on their way and they will be here by this Saturday’s open hours.  We’ll be selling them in dozens but also individually, already prepped, for $3 each. 

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Here is a Wolbybug cover with a pad folded Tiny Tush flat in it.

To Enter:

1. Visit our store this month and fill out an entry form.  One entry form per visit, visit as many times as you’d like1

2. Place an online order and add the “Monthly Giveaway” to your cart.  It will charge you 1 cent because it won’t let me list an item for $0.  (If that’s a problem and you would like the 1 cent refunded, please pay for your order with Paypal and send an email asking for the 1 cent refund, we’re happy to oblige.)

3. Comment here and tell us… what is your favorite STYLE of cloth diaper – Flatfold, Prefold, Contour, Fitted, Pocket, All-in-one, or All-in-two – and why? Normally I LOVE my AIO’s because they are SO easy but lately I have really been feeling the flats love!